编号：时间：2021年x月x日海纳百川页码：第PAGE33页共NUMPAGES33页第PAGE\*MERGEFORMAT33页共NUMPAGES\*MERGEFORMAT33页英语教学课件参考20080351045英语教学法课件FriendsforLife—JoyceBrothersEventhough“friend”isatermofendearmentusedtodescribemanypeopleinourlives,weoftenhaveahardtimeknowingwhatthetermmeans.Psychologistsidentifyfriendsasthosewhoaccepteachother,confideineachotherandfeelresponsibleforeachother.Inourtransientcultures,wedependmoreonfriendsforthingsweoncegotfromfamilies-emotionalsupportandoftenevenfinancialhelp.Withsomanypeoplelivingawayfromtheirfamilies,andsomanypeoplesingleintotheirthirties,friendsprovideessentialcompanionship.Friendscanoccuranyplace-even(surprise!)inamarriage.Thiswasthecasewithme.ImetandfellinlovewithMiltonBrothersatuniversity.Hebecamemyhusbandsoonafter,andweweretogether39years-untilhediedattheageof62.Hewasmybestfriend,andIstillmisshimdesperately.Sincehedied,mysister,withwhomIfoughtfiercelywhenwewereyounger,hasbecomeoneofmybestfriends.AndI’malsoveryclosetomyonlydaughter,LisaFriendsrankswithmarriageandkinshipasoneofthemostimportantrelationshipsinourlives,yetitcanbethemostneglected.Friendshipoutsidefamilialtiesormarriageplayssuchanimportantroleinlifebecausewithafriend,wecanbethepersonwewanttobe.Theiracceptanceaffirmsthatselfandletsusdevelopasindividuals.Wemakenovowstoabestfriend,yetwehaveunstatedexpectations:understanding,caring,concern.Weexpectafriendshiptolast.Mostofushavebeenmakingfriendssincechildhood,sowetendtothinktheprocessisinstinctual.Thenwefindthattheheartoffriendship-howtomaketherelationshipblossom,growandsurvive-requiresmoreattentionandskillthanwethought.ToRalphWaldoEmerson,“theonlywaytohaveafriendistobeone.”Becomingfriendsinvolvesaprocessofsharing,agradualrelaxationofvigilanceoverwhatpartnersrevealtoeachotheraboutthemselves.Friendsmustlearntobalancetheinclinationtobeopenwiththeneedtobeprotectiveofeachother’sfeelings.Abest-friendshipgetsoutofbalancewhentheintensitybecomestooone-sided.Totaldisclosureisn’twhatmakesintimacyinarelationship;it’sthel